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Find Your Worth in God, Not the World
I’m still not fully sure where things went wrong. As a child, faith felt simpler, God’s love, unquestionable. Yet, as I stepped into adulthood, things got complicated and disappointments began to warp my understanding of my own worth in the face of my faith.
Sadly, I began to believe a single lie that caused so much turmoil within me and caused me to form self-destructive patterns with my life.
The Lie That Took Root: Somewhere between Sunday school lessons and adult Bible studies, and my pursuit in seminary, a lie crept in unnoticed that I would later unpack in counseling and coaching. I began to believe that I wasn’t valuable to God. That the outcomes of my life were a result of his dissatisfaction with me and my sin. This wasn’t a loud, abrupt intrusion but a slow, creeping doubt that settled into my bones. Deep down I wasn’t willing to accept that God’s love was for me. It tainted every prayer, every sermon heard, and every verse read.
This subtle, and brutal pride veiled itself in false humility. I found myself seeking counsel after counsel, sitting in different chairs, hoping for a resolution that never came. Each session ended with me feeling more desolate than before. My faith, that I thought was once a solid rock, had become crumbling sand.
Exhausted and disheartened, I continued to seek wisdom and the Lord. Season over season God put me into circumstances that forced me to face my doubts and to wrestle with the truth. It was time to confront the lie head-on and re-anchor my faith in the truth of Scripture.
Steps to Healing:
- My heartfelt Return to Scripture: Oddly enough, after all of my study of the scriptures, I needed to slow down my pace and let my heart embrace it again as I sat with the Lord I didn’t necessarily begin to pore over the Bible in revived bliss, but I did begin to allow myself to let the scriptures truths wash over me like a gentle rain. Meditating on well known Scriptures again like Psalm 139, which declares that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, helped rebuild what was broken.
- My intentional Prayers and Reflection: At first, I had to write some prayers out that I could use every day. Sure, just talking with God became a practice again, but having the written prayers and spending time in them helped me consistently return to what mattered to me in the Lord. In those moments of quiet communion, I felt the reassurance of God’s spirit reminding me of my inherent worth and purpose He gave me
- My Counseling Journey: Sharing my struggles with a trusted counselor was huge. I had sought many different counselors. I look back at those days as very frustrating because I did not realize that safety was something I felt was missing all of my Christian upbringing. So I struggled to make progress because I didn’t feel safe with the counselors I had up to that point. It was something I had to work through, each one of them could have been great, but it was not feeling the security of safety that kept me behind. When I found the counselor that I felt safe with, I finally began to make progress. His insights and affirmations provided a mirror of truth about God’s love with grace and compassion.
- A faith community to return to: So my views of church had become incredibly warped by my journey and experiences. It was hard to feel at home for a long time because my studies and attitudes about the way church “should” be kept me cynical and dissatisfied. I knew there wasn’t a single “perfect” church on planet earth, but it was my disappointments, my issues, that kept me from truly opening up at church and connecting with the community God led me to. Once I began to step out of my subtle pride and into the truth with real humility I found peace at church and a grace that reflected God’s grace for us.
So, is this a story about finding my worth in God? On one level, yes. I needed to understand God’s love for ME, but that love brings about a humility that shapes our devotion and walk with Him. It’s a journey of not only returning to the truths that may have been overshadowed by life’s circumstances but it was a journey of finally embodying them. Yes, I had to do some work and dismantle the lies I believed with a counselor and coach and I had to reclaim the steadfast promises of God’s love for me.
If you find yourself struggling with similar feelings of unworthiness, or are struggling to understand what is holding you back. It may not be subtle pride. It could be any number of beliefs that are not true that you need to dismantle with a coach or counselor. I encourage you to take a step today towards healing. Seek the truth in Scripture, pray for revelation, and surround yourself with those who will remind you of your true worth in Christ.
How to See Yourself Through God’s Eyes
The Battle for Our Identity in a Digital Age
Social media has warped our perception of self-worth. In an instant, we’re flooded with messages that shape the narrative we tell ourselves about our identity in Christ.
If we’re already struggling with feelings of shame, insecurity, or unworthiness, these messages can magnify those emotions, causing us to lose sight of who we are in God’s eyes.
I’ve personally wrestled with this. Between the expectations of others and the standards I set for myself, it was easy to get caught up in the world’s definition of success—both professionally and personally.
But here’s the truth: We are responsible for our thoughts, emotions, and actions. We can’t blame social media alone for how we see ourselves. However, we are not left without help.
The Lord meets us in our vulnerable moments. He provides His Spirit to guide us, and His Word to anchor us.
So if you’re in a place where you’re questioning your worth, ask yourself:
- What would it look like to see myself the way God sees me?
- How can I consistently remind myself of my identity in Christ, despite my past mistakes?
How the World and Our Past Influence Us
We live in a world that constantly pressures us to measure up. Society—and even the enemy’s schemes—try to distort our identity, making it difficult to walk in the freedom God intended.
This isn’t an easy battle. Our culture conditions us to seek validation in performance, appearance, and approval from others. Whether we like it or not, these influences affect us.
But here’s the key: We choose how we measure our worth.
As believers, God’s Word must be our standard—not the fleeting opinions of the world.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” – Romans 12:2
The Power of Scripture in Renewing Your Mind
Spending time in God’s Word transforms how we see ourselves. Even reading Scripture a few times a week can radically change your self-talk, heal past wounds, and reshape your self-image.
When we replace the lies of the enemy with the truth of God, we step into freedom.
How God Sees You (and What That Means for Your Life)
So, how does God actually see you? The Bible is clear:
1. You Are Loved Unconditionally
God’s love isn’t based on performance—it’s freely given.
“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” – Romans 8:38-39
Nothing can separate you from His love. You are deeply valued, no matter what you’ve done.
2. You Are Created in His Image
Your worth is not earned—it’s intrinsic.
“So God created mankind in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.” – Genesis 1:27
You bear God’s handprint—you were intentionally made and carry eternal significance.
3. You Have Purpose in Your Struggles
God can use even your hardest seasons for good.
Your struggles don’t disqualify you—they equip you. God refines us through challenges so we can help others and grow spiritually.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” – Romans 8:28
4. Your Past Does Not Define You
Your identity isn’t in your past mistakes—it’s in God’s redemption.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” – 2 Corinthians 5:17
Your redemption story is not something to be ashamed of. It’s a powerful testimony of God’s grace.
I used to fear sharing my past. But now? I see it as an opportunity to give God glory and encourage others. I don’t air everything to everyone, but I share when God leads me—because our stories are meant to bring hope to others.
And that’s freedom. Living unashamed. Never going back. All glory to God!
How to Align Your Perspective with God’s Daily
Now, how do you actually start seeing yourself through God’s eyes? Here are four practical steps:
1. Spend Time in Scripture Daily
The first thing I ask any man struggling is:
“Are you in the Word?”Spiritual transformation begins with God’s truth, not worldly affirmations.
For years, I called myself a “good Christian”—but I wasn’t consistently in the Word. When I finally prioritized it, everything changed.
2. Break Negative Thought Patterns with Gratitude
If you’re stuck in sin, shame, or negativity, you need to replace that focus.
Gratitude shifts your mindset. Instead of dwelling on failures, focus on God’s goodness. Write down at least three things you’re grateful for every day—it rewires your brain.
3. Surround Yourself with Godly Community
Feeling isolated? Find a strong Christian community.
I used to get discouraged by the lack of support in my life. But then I realized: I had to keep searching. God used different people at different times to guide me.
Don’t give up on finding the right people. Keep praying. Keep looking. God has a place for you.
4. Ask God to Show You How He Sees You
Sit in silence. Invite the Holy Spirit to speak to your heart.
Then, write it down—your prayers, your thoughts, and what God reveals. These moments become powerful reminders of His faithfulness.
Final Thoughts
My heart is so big for you on this journey.
When I finally saw how I had been partnering with the enemy in my self-talk, it changed everything. I realized:
- I wasn’t treating myself with the same grace God gave me.
- I wasn’t walking in His truth—I was believing lies.
- I needed healing and actionable change.
I don’t know where you are today, but I pray you’ll take time to reflect. Evaluate your self-talk, challenge the lies, and let God rewrite your identity in Him.
If you’re looking for support on this journey, I’d love to connect! Reach out anytime.
God bless!
Understanding Your Identity in Christ: Embrace Who God Says You Are
Who Are You, Really, in Christ?
Discovering and living in our new identity in Christ are two completely different things.
Many believers struggle to understand their identity in Christ, and even more struggle daily to embody it.
I remember longing for a transformation as clear as Saul’s conversion to Paul. His encounter with the Lord on the road to Damascus wasn’t just life-changing—it came with a new name.
For years, I equated his conversion with an immediate shift in identity. But now, I wonder—how much did Paul struggle with his new identity in Christ? Did he wrestle with the same doubts and challenges we face today?
Yet, despite any struggles he may have had, Paul fully embraced his identity in Christ. Without that transformation, we wouldn’t have the powerful truths he laid out in Scripture.
As a coach, I help men discover and walk boldly in their God-given identity as husbands and fathers. My goal in this post is to encourage you to embrace who you are in Christ and overcome the “imposter syndrome” that can creep in.
The Foundation of Our Identity in Christ
The first verse that came to mind when writing this article was 2 Corinthians 5:17:
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”
This truth is life-changing. If you are in Christ, your old identity is gone. You are not the same person.
Romans 6:11 reinforces this:
“So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus.”
Think about that—before Christ, you were spiritually dead. But in Him, you are fully alive.
And yet, so many believers walk through life feeling defeated—weighed down by past mistakes, struggling with shame, and believing the enemy’s lies.
I can’t help but picture someone trying to climb back into their grave—desperately holding onto a false identity that no longer belongs to them. It’s time to let go of the old and step into the new.
The Struggle of Living in Your Identity
Even after salvation, we still battle:
✅ The world’s influence
✅ Spiritual attacks from the enemy
✅ Our own fleshThis is why renewing our minds daily in Scripture is essential (Romans 12:2).
When we define our self-worth by:
❌ The approval of others
❌ Success or failure
❌ Past mistakesWe lose sight of who God says we are.
So, what’s the truth?
Who Does God Say You Are?
If you are in Christ, here’s what Scripture declares about your true identity:
- You Are a New Creation – You are not defined by your past (2 Corinthians 5:17).
- You Are a Child of God – You belong to His family (John 1:12, Romans 8:15).
- You Are Chosen and Set Apart – God has a purpose for you (1 Peter 2:9).
- You Are Deeply Loved – God’s love defines you, not your mistakes (Romans 5:8).
- You Are More Than a Conqueror – Victory is yours in Christ (Romans 8:37).
If God says this about you, then it’s time to believe it.
How to Walk in Your New Identity
1. Repent and Renew Your Mind
Repentance simply means turning away from old thinking and aligning your mind with God’s truth. You are now empowered to live for Him in a way you weren’t before.
2. Meditate on Scripture Daily
Spend time in the Word. Let Scripture transform your thinking and remind you of who you are.
3. Speak Truth Over Yourself
Replace negative self-talk with God’s promises. Daily affirmations rooted in Scripture rewire your mind to think like Christ.
4. Find a Community of Faith
Surround yourself with believers who:
✔ Teach biblical truth
✔ Encourage and mentor you
✔ Hold you accountable5. Walk in Obedience
You are responsible for your actions. True transformation comes when you actively obey God’s Word.
The best part? God is incredibly patient and gracious. He is with you in every step of your journey.
Final Thoughts
Finding your footing in your new identity can be challenging. The Bible is vast, and without guidance, it’s easy to feel stuck or lost.
That’s why we started this blog and coaching community—to walk alongside you as you grow in Christ.
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