Author: Adam

I have been on quite the journey when it comes to disappointment. Anyone else out there had their world rocked by outcomes that didn’t turn out the way they hoped?

I know for sure I’m not alone in this.

I’ve felt deep disappointment—not just in small, everyday frustrations but in the big things. There have been moments where I looked at my life and thought, How did I get here? The culmination of my choices, hard work, and even prayers led to a place I never intended to be. And honestly? That was frustrating.

Disappointment comes in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes, it’s as simple as a ruined meal or an event that didn’t meet our expectations. Other times, it cuts deeper—disappointment in a job, a relationship, our own decisions, or even the way life itself has unfolded.

But here’s the real question: How do we deal with disappointment in a way that honors God?

Acknowledge Disappointment for what it is.

Yes, it stings. So we try to cope with it and most often in unhealthy way.

We need to address our disappointments by first acknowledging them and placing them in the great scheme of things. Especially if we are striving to trust the Lord.

How many times was David honest with the Lord about his disappointments and feelings of discontent and lack of connection with God.

“How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?” (Psalm 13:1)

Man, I can relate to that. So often I have felt forgotten by God and especially in the outcomes of my journey and David is referred to as a “man after God’s own heart.” Whew…

Our faith journey is not without these sorts of disappointments. So, don’t read into this and feeling of shame. Read into this a sense of belonging in God’s arms.

How we choose to respond is what is key to stepping forward in victory.

Shift Your Perspective and trust in God’s ultimate plan.

I once heard an influencer say that God is not in control. Now, it was said for clicks and her point was that we so often use this as an excuse for taking responsibility for our lives. On one hand I agree with her, yet we can’t forget God’s sovereign hand is always at work and that can bring us a sense of comfort when there are things that take place in our lives that we just cannot understand.

God is truly working together all things for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purposes, but it’s not a truth we always need blabbered at us in the midst of our disappointing moments. It’s true, but I’ll admit, it’s not always comforting as well.

So what do we do in the face of hard truths?

We take the time we need, but then we pan out and recall God’s beautiful love for us.

Proverbs 16:9 says “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.”

We will make our plans. We will have expectations. This passage should remind us that ultimately all things will land in the Lord’s will.

It’s a paradox that we must always live and keep in balance. I know.

Even still, we have to live knowing that some of our biggest disappointments might actually be divine intervention in our lives for God’s ultimate refinement of our hearts.

So how do we live?

One of the sneakiest sins in my life was bitterness.

Man, it creeps in the back door and sets up camp and before we know it our entire house is rotten.

What I mean by that is if we are not in the practice of identifying our thoughts as God defines them then we can let them run amuck our hearts position on our life’s circumstances.

Let the holy spirit in and let Him shed light on this nasty visitor.

Spend time evaluating your thoughts about any given area of your life and challenge your them against the truths God has for you.

Not everything will feel good. Life is flat out hard and the sooner we acknowledge that not everything will work out, the better we will live in His hands.

All of this makes me think about Elijah in 1 Kings 19:11-13.

In expressing his frustrations to God, God gave him the next step to take. Elijah had to trust God in the way in which he would show up. You may be expecting Him to show up in a particular way, but God is going to show up in precisely the way He needs to for your good and His glory.

Don’t let this define you.

I’ve made the mistake of letting my disappointments define me and become a part of my identity.

Bad move that I’m working to heal.

That’s why I want to help you overcome and avoid this huge mistake because it will cost you greatly.

Don’t let it be your final destination. It’s not the whole story.

Life is full of these moments and you don’t have to let your identity get wrapped up in them.

Choose NOW to walk through them with the hope and connection with your heart and God that will show the world and yourself that this is not the end and you can life in such a way that brings peace and healing no matter the season of life you’re in.

Are you facing an area of disappointment and need help walking through it?

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Rejection is so hard. In one swoop, everything we believe about love, acceptance, self-worth, and belonging can feel shaken by a single moment.

Maybe you were overlooked for a job, abandoned by a friend, or dismissed in a relationship. No matter how it happens, rejection stings—and if we’re not careful, it can make us question our value.

But as believers, we are not left without hope. The world may tell us that rejection defines our worth, but Scripture tells a different story.

Jesus Understands Rejection—He Faced It Firsthand

The first thing that comes to mind when thinking about rejection is this: Jesus was rejected too.

One of the most comforting truths for believers is that Christ faced rejection head-on. Isaiah 53:3 describes Him as “despised and rejected by mankind.” Even those closest to Him turned away.

At first glance, His rejection might not seem to compare to ours. Jesus wasn’t rejected by a boss, a spouse, or a group of friends. But if we take a closer look, we see that His rejection was even deeper—He was scorned, betrayed, and abandoned by the very people He came to save.

And yet, His rejection was part of His higher calling. It was necessary for the path God had set before Him.

If rejection played a role in God’s greater plan for Jesus, could it be that God is using rejection in our lives for a purpose too?

Rejection is Often God’s Protection and Redirection

It’s easy to let rejection make us feel unworthy or unwanted, but what if it’s actually God’s way of guiding us toward something better?

So often, what feels like rejection is actually divine protection. God may be closing a door because He sees the harm ahead, or He may be redirecting you toward a path that better aligns with His purpose for your life.

Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

We may not always understand why rejection happens, but we can trust that God is in control—even in our disappointment.

Your Identity is in Christ, Not in the Approval of Others

One of the hardest parts of rejection is that it makes us question our identity. We all, to some degree, crave love and approval. But as followers of Christ, our worth is not based on the opinions of others—it is based on who we are in Him.

God chose you before the foundation of the world. He sent His Son to secure your place in His kingdom. You are a co-heir with Christ (Romans 8:17), and no rejection on earth can change that.

In the grand scheme of eternity, human approval is fleeting. But God’s love for you is eternal. Take comfort in that truth.

Let Rejection Draw You Closer to God

Pain has a way of either pulling us away from God or pushing us toward Him. When faced with rejection, we have a choice—will we allow it to plant seeds of bitterness, or will we let it drive us deeper into our faith?

Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:33:
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

God knows what you need. He knows the desires of your heart. When you shift your focus from the rejection you’ve experienced to the presence of God, you will find peace beyond understanding.

Keep Moving Forward in Faith

I won’t sugarcoat it—rejection is painful. It takes time to heal. But it does not define you, and it does not determine your future.

Let this experience fade in the background of your mind as you compare it to the eternal riches God has prepared for you. Let it deepen your faith and strengthen your trust in the Lord.

You are not defined by who walks away from you. You are defined by the One who will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:8).

God has a plan for you. He is speaking it over you even now. Trust Him, even in this season of rejection, and watch Him turn it into something beautiful.

The Moment I Woke Up

I started thinking a lot about mindset when I realized I’d spent over a decade feeling stuck in frustration and disappointment. For so long, I couldn’t figure out why I felt so trapped. But then, I started asking myself some hard questions about my mindset.

I discovered that I had unknowingly developed a victim mindset, with self-talk dominated by shame and self-criticism. This mindset trapped me in a cycle of disempowered life decisions and left me wondering why I wasn’t experiencing the empowered Christian life we often hear about. Where was the powerful transformation in my mind and heart that the Bible promises?

It’s incredible to think that, on the one hand, God supplies everything we need for a fulfilling life, yet on the other hand, we often end up self-sabotaging. And that’s exactly where I found myself.

A Biblical Example of Transformation

My struggle reminded me of the time Jesus encountered a father whose son was possessed by an evil spirit. The father desperately wanted his son to be free, yet he lacked the faith to fully believe it could happen. In a rare moment of frustration, Jesus expressed disappointment, saying, “You faithless people! How long must I be with you?” (Mark 9:19). It’s a sharp reminder that while Jesus is often patient and gracious, He sometimes calls us out when our faith is lacking.

Despite His frustration, Jesus freed the boy. Later, His disciples asked why they couldn’t perform the same miracle, and Jesus answered, “This kind can be cast out only by prayer.” (Mark 9:29). Jesus was clear: some breakthroughs require faith and prayer above all else.

The Power of Faith and Prayer in a Christian Mindset

What I learned from that story and my journey is that a true Christian mindset is one rooted in faith and prayer. We can analyze our mindsets, study personal development, and dive into self-discovery, but at the end of the day, faith and prayer are the foundations of an effective Christian life.

This was the breakthrough for me: understanding that developing a healthy Christian mindset means going beyond logic. It defies human wisdom and aligns us with God’s wisdom.

1. Recognize the Foundation of a Christian Mindset: Faith and Prayer

A healthy Christian mindset is grounded in faith and the knowledge that God is with us. Instead of letting negative thoughts take control, we need to remind ourselves of God’s promises and approach everything in life through prayer.

• Romans 12:2 – “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

2. Take Every Thought Captive

When you start identifying negative thoughts or beliefs, take them captive. Challenge those thoughts and align them with God’s truth. This self-awareness is a powerful step in renewing your mind.

• Pause and ask, “Is this thought in line with what God says about me?” Replace negative thoughts with verses of affirmation.
• 2 Corinthians 10:5 – “We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

3. Embrace Gratitude

Practicing gratitude is essential for a healthy mindset. By thanking God daily, we focus on what He’s given us and grow in appreciation for His work in our lives.

• Keep a gratitude journal, writing down things you’re thankful for each day. This simple practice helps shift your focus from worry to trust.
• 1 Thessalonians 5:18 – “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

4. Surround Yourself with Supportive Faith Community

Our Christian mindset is strengthened by the company we keep. Connect with believers who encourage your growth, pray for you, and remind you of God’s truth.

• Join a small group or accountability group where you can grow together in faith, share experiences, and encourage each other in prayer.
• Proverbs 27:17 – “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

Conclusion: Embrace the Healthy Christian Mindset

A healthy Christian mindset is about fully trusting God, embracing faith, and walking in prayer. It’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to “fix” ourselves through endless effort. But real transformation, the kind that frees us and empowers us, comes from placing our faith in God and allowing Him to renew our minds each day.

This is the path to living an empowered, peaceful, and Christ-centered life—a mindset that defies logic and embodies God’s wisdom.